Do you ever find talking to someone you don’t know is difficult? You are not alone! But you really can talk to anyone, anywhere and get their interest more easily than you can imagine! Don’t get caught up in self-doubt or awkward pick-up lines. Instead, try our proven techniques that follow:
As is true with everything in life, lead with confidence. What you believe others will sense and follow. Know that you are all good with you no matter what happens.
Structure Your Environment
Take an edge off of the unfamiliar by creating the best possible setting. If you want to meet someone, position yourself within reasonable proximity to that person. Change tables or seats if needed. Make a natural conversation possible by “unavoidably” overhearing a comment you can offer a funny or charming observation about to the person of interest. If prefer distant flirting, move your position in the room for greater visibility and smile a bit. If you feel nervous or don’t want to make a first move, have a friend move closer to the one you want to meet so you can naturally walk over with confidence and start a conversation.
Use the Element of Surprise and Curiosity
People are fascinated by something (or someone) that catches them by surprise. It creates curiosity and interest. Open the conversation with a question or comment meant to create a bit of intrigue as to where you will take the conversation next. Don’t use tired lines or boring introductions. Take a leap of faith with a bit of bold familiarity and deliver a question or comment that is unexpected. (Caveat: nothing crude or creepy!)
Everyone loves good humor. If you are a natural at humor and observe it in all things around you, share a funny observation with the one you want to meet. Many people are not observant, however, if you point out something humorous you are inviting someone else in to join you to enjoy the laugh. Teasing (to a degree) or funny banter is usually an easy, warm opening.
Add a Bit of Appreciation
We all can use a bit more appreciation in our lives! Once you have a bit of a conversation flowing, don’t forget to use a well placed compliment (only genuine, no pandering). Find something you genuinely find admirable and make a casual observations of it to the person of interest.
Have an End Result in Mind
Don’t overstay your welcome. Have an end goal in mind. Do you want to simply meet and enjoy the moment? Exchange numbers? Ask them out for a date? Whatever your end goal, get clarity as quickly as possible and try to casually meet your goal.
Now Let Go of the Outcome
Remember to have fun. Don’t get to fixated on the outcome! Relax and enjoy yourself. If you are too focused on your end-result you will tend to come across as desperate. Know when to walk away. People are attracted to an invitation to know more without an expectation tied to it. If there is a connection between you or even a bit of interest, you will both be ready to get to know each other more.
We would love to hear your best methods for meeting others and gaining their interest. Tell us your story in our comments section!