“Love will find a way,” and “If it’s meant to be, it will happen,” are just a couple of the common phrases that seem to imply that love, by its very existence, will magically lead to finding your “true love” and will ensure your love leads to a successful relationship. But does love really find a way? Can the existence of love guarantee a successful relationship?
Love is a powerful emotion and it’s hardwired to our belief systems about relationships. Many feel that love should unfold like a romantic film or novel. But in reality, love is the fuel that inspires us to be our best selves, to take risks, to rise above, to take action, to yield and to forgive. Love is a powerful emotion that inspires kindness, affection, passion and caring as well as selfless heroic acts for the beloved.
But, it’s you and I who “find a way.” We act on love. We allow ourselves to be vulnerable to it. We are moved to share our true self with another. We take action on our feelings of love. Love is a verb. Love cannot come to fruition until action takes place. Love involves risk. Once we take that risk it involves a continued effort and pursuit to order to grow and thrive. [How to Keep Love Alive]
When relationships break down or fail it’s not because it was “not meant to be,” or love failed to “concur all,” but rather because the two people in the relationship changed at some point. [Top 3 Reasons for Breakups] Their perceptions of self and other changed. Or their needs changed. Or they lost their feelings of love for a variety of reasons. What is true at one point may be quite different at another point. Our change is constant and affects our relationships. In fact, love may continue to exist, but the relationship may not survive for a variety of reasons.
So although love is a tremendous emotion that inspires greatness and offers us the opportunity to share ourself with another in a way that is unparalleled–it is the two people in the relationship that find a way.
We would love to hear your thoughts on love-inspiring actions that help you find a way. Please share your experiences in the comment section below.